Monday, November 14, 2016

An Open Letter To The New President-Elect 2016

Hello Mr. President-Elect,

You have no idea who I am and to be honest... if you met me you'd probably walk on by.  I'm not glamorous or chic.  I'm not young or sexy.  I am truly just an ordinary, every-day, middle-class, woman. 

Mr. President-Elect, I am one of the millions of people that you are going to be leading as the next president of the United States. Additionally, I am one of the many who did not vote for you.  I am a bit of an odd duck in that I REFUSE to choose a political party to follow blindly.  I vote what my conscious tells me to (sometimes that is Liberal, sometimes Republican, and sometimes Democrat) and this time my conscious was screaming at me to vote against you because of some VERY inflammatory things you said as you ran your campaign.  

Mr. President-Elect, I am not stupid.  I understand that to you, this was a game ... A very-big, very-important game... but a game none-the-less.  I am guessing that when you started out, you didn't really expect to win this game.   In fact, I am betting that you expected to be shot down pretty quickly, and when that didn't happen - I'm guessing that you were pretty honored (and flattered) to have so many people respond so positively to you.  I have to admit I was pretty horrified when you won.  But I've been thinking a lot about the situation our country is in and how you got to be where you now reside. 

Mr. President-Elect, after some serious reflection - I have to admit you played the game VERY WELL.  So well in fact, that you shocked the world by winning.   You won the game because you played the game in a way that nobody expected.  You played without the self-imposed rules that both the Democratic Party and the Republican Party use.  You played the game your way, without their rules, by courting anyone and any advantage you could take.  You played the way that big business plays - the end justifies the means... and it worked.  It worked spectacularly.   

So you've won... now what?  Mr. President-Elect, I do not know if you really understand how much power you will have - AND how much power you won't have.  You've made some really big promises and you've made some really big threats.  It will be quite an interesting four years to watch and see if you can deliver on anything you said.  

But in spite of the inflammatory things that you've said, I have hopes for you Mr. President-Elect.  I have hopes that since you have won the game, you will now go back to being more-reasonable in your approach to life.  More responsive to those that need help.  I've done some research and it does appear that you have done some good in your life prior to being the President-Elect (and prior to being the big TV personality, or perhaps under the radar of the media?).  I am hoping that you will continue to carry forward, some of those good deeds into your soon-to-be presidential life.  

You have before you Mr. President-Elect, an opportunity to be a great man.  To do great things.  To affect great change.  Within you is the power to truly be a great president.  A President that all can look up to as you lead our nation in the next four years.  But Mr. President-Elect, that opportunity starts now!  Not, when you take office, but NOW!  You've pressed the flesh; you've done the congratulatory thing.  You're doing your best to look presidential.  I am sure you're enjoying the accolades and parties.  But what I don't see, is any real effort to ACT presidential.  This nation is in crisis and things are continuing to heat up, but all I am hearing from you is silence.  It is true that you have no power-as-president until you officially take office, but you DO have power!  

Now is the time when that power can be harnessed!  Now is your first-of-many opportunities to take a stand and start to set the tone for what your administration will be.  Sir, I am asking you to please step up, make a public statement, and take a stand against hate crimes and violence!  Our children are watching.  My friends and family members are not feeling safe.  It breaks my heart to see so many people feeling desolate and distraught...and much of that is a direct result of the way you played the game and the verbal stones you threw.  But the game is over.  You've won.  You've had a chance to relax and enjoy.  Please step up and begin the process of being the President.  I understand that you gave an interview with 60 Minutes during which you denounced the hate crimes (and I appreciate that), but it is not enough.  Call a press conference, show that you are partnering with the current administration against hate crimes.  Make a stand for unity and inclusiveness. 

With stones you can build a wall Mr. President-Elect, but with stones - you can also build a bridge.   Become a president for all of us instead of just some of us. 

Thank you from a hum-drum mom.

Monday, September 2, 2013

Expectations For Our Children And For Our Adults

My friends,

I have noticed a big shift in parenting - and it is one that saddens me.  Children of this era are not only being raised by computers, televisions, and electronic toys - but they are also being raised with diminished manners, and an overall disregard for their fellow humans.

In a previous post, I noted what my expectations are for my child for her future life (mainly to be a  independent, self-sufficient, and happy adult with a good moral compass).  I still feel that those are really what the governors for her life should be.

However, I am noticing a on-going (and alarming) trend in our youth which really now continues on up into the adult ranks.  That trend is what appears to be a total lack of respect for other people, governing rules, and property.  Not only have please and thank-you's started disappearing, but so have any signs of empathy or caring.  This is most noticeable when driving!  I live out in the suburbs (almost rural).  The majority of the roads have stop signs.  The number of cars NOT stopping at stop signs has been increasing.  And when cars do stop, there appears to be total lack of concern for whom arrived first and I've seen quite a few cars charging through the intersections out of turn, coming ever-closer to causing accidents.

Even worse is what the humble pedestrian must endure!  Woe to them if they are trying to cross the road during high traffic times!  These poor drivers are setting bad examples for their children and for the children in other cars that are witnessing them fail to follow the traffic rules - and if you think the kids aren't paying attention - YOU ARE WRONG!! They see the things the adults do and begin to follow the "if you don't get caught, you're not wrong" mentality.

Ok looking at the above paragraph, I realize it reads like I'm an old lady...and I'm not (at least not to me!)... I'm in my late 40's and am just trying to comprehend the reality I'm living in.

Traffic issues are just a small point.  But the "if you don't get caught, you're not wrong" mentality IS a big issue.  Lots of parents at our local schools are "helping" their kids with homework (in my day that was cheating).  I've heard parents at our local pool telling their kids to ignore the rules unless they get caught.  I even know of a parent who has taken her 4th-grader and a couple of friends to the local Target store and left them their for several hours while she did other things (and NO she didn't leave them a cell phone or give them a way to communicate with her).  I'm pretty sure Target wouldn't approve of that - I know I would be appalled if I found out my child had been left there!

All of these poor behavior examples are observed by our children who absorb it and then start to apply it to their own lives AND all of these examples point to that mentality of "if you don't get caught, you're not wrong".... which is really just a modern day version of the Machiavellian and Medici concept of "The End Justifies The Means".  History showed us the Medici mentality gave them free reign to hurt and kill many people - is that really what we're wanting for our children to learn and emulate?  And why are so many adults seeming to walk down that path??

Is it video games?  Is it the lack of corporal punishment in schools as well as at home?  Is it having multiple caregivers causing a lack of parent-child attachment?  Is it the Democrats - or the Republicans?  Is it the poisoning of our environment?  Is it greed, too much television, or the devil?   Or is it that we humans always been this way - but thanks to the information age, it now is just more visible? 

It is ironic that we seem to be having a huge up-swelling of disrespectful adults while we also have an increasing number of baby-boomer adults who will need hands-on care as they continue to age.  PLUS we have a huge number of autism-spectrum children (and other behavior issues) that are increasing each year in our schools and will soon be out of the school systems and requiring part or full-time care.   Who will be caring for all of the elderly and for the special-needs adults?  Probably not adults who have no respect for other people!  Perhaps I'm just being an alarmist, but I truly find it sad that empathy, sympathy, and respect appear to be undesirable traits.

Thursday, March 7, 2013

Why are companies messing around with people's lives?

My husband works for a cellphone company that has an initiative to turn all of it's I/T jobs into contractor positions.  In fact, yesterday my husband's department all got the news that their full-time jobs end in April and IF they don't take the contractor positions offered (no matter what the money or benefits offered), they are out - and no compensation will be given.  Pretty amazing for a company who was on a list of "best places to work" not that long ago!

WHY is it that companies feel that it's a fine thing to do - to save a few bucks and screw with people's lives?  I understand that they are there to make money - but why can they not make money and still have semi-decent values that treat their employees like ... well... employees - a VALUABLE asset?

Companies pull this crap and then wonder why their work-quality suffers.  The products they provide then suffers...and they start cutting even more money.  Why can they not see that it's an ugly, vicious cycle?

Worst of all, is that they are truly playing god with people's lives....and they have no conscious, no guilt, and no shame about causing "regular" people HUGE problems.  Most people affected will be forced to look for new jobs (and that is not a good thing in our current economy).   Many of us will have to take the crap-sandwich that they are offering because we have no alternative... if we don't work, we lose our home.  Even if we do accept their offer, it's very likely that we will slowly lose our home because the salary offered, won't be enough to pay all of our bills.

It's sad that these companies are literally taking profits from screwing low-level employees.  I bet you dollars-to-doughnuts, that all the bigwigs aren't losing money (or jobs)!  In fact, it's probably the opposite - they'll have golden parachutes and receive very nice bonus's for screwing the lower level employees.

Has anyone noticed that the great American dream is dying or dead??  Work hard and get paid for it isn't happening any more.  Work hard and create a good life for you and your family is also dying fast.  Work hard and end up desperately in debt - how the hell did we end up with that option??

As for us, well - we'll be OK.  NO, we don't have enough money saved and YES, we have a lot (make that A LOT!!!) of debt.  But we have each-other, we have our faith, and we have hope.  You upper-management types should be ashamed for what you are doing to the people that work for you - and to our country's economy!!  But we'll be OK in spite of your best efforts to bring us to our knees.